Authenticity Over Skills

 Why do you have what you need right now to be a great communicator?

The genuine relief and emotion on the faces of the rescued Chilean miners and their families were priceless. I was moved to tears as they thanked the men that had brought them to the surface after 69 days underground.

The power of a moment like that is unforgettable, and the visceral reaction that it can evoke is a reminder of the powerful connection that we humans share. It is this connection that is the conduit for excellent communicators. Authenticity will always draw us in more than honed skills or practiced rhetoric.

For example, just the other night, my friend shared the incredible experience of hearing Mother Theresa speak at a Presidential Prayer Breakfast in Washington, D.C. years ago. The picture at this meeting is the leaders from churches and representatives of organizations from around the world. Of course, our President and First Lady (at this time it was President Clinton) are there seated at the dais as Mother Theresa speaks:

Not with her movements or oratory talents, but with her simplicity of purpose and genuine feeling, she grabs this audience of hundreds of people. Her compassion for children and enthusiasm for her work captivates an audience that has been listening to political speeches practically every day for decades.

Mother Theresa, who is soft-spoken and modestly clad, is regarded as one of the most riveting keynote speakers in the history of the Presidential Prayer Breakfasts.

I don't want to minimize the importance of lessons taught; skills are crucial. I teach kids on a daily basis, but sincerity is the most important factor in connecting on an emotional level that is remembered.

Allow yourself to be unconcerned about what others think of you, your dress, your hair, or your business expertise, and instead convey your passion openly. You'll not only feel more connected, but you'll also have a sense of freedom that you'll never want to give up after you've had it!

This may appear to be easier said than done. It may take the assistance of a coach to overcome any assumptions or concerns that are preventing you from becoming a fully authentic communicator, but it will be well worth it!